Massachusetts Justice of the Peace / Wedding Celebrant Regina M. Pacitti

Below are some tips on writing your own wedding ceremony, taken from my article in the Summer 2011 Tufts University magazine. You can find the original article by clicking here.

Begin by welcoming your guests. You may also want to remember those who can't be present. Conclude with some thoughts on love and the meaning of marriage.

Keep vows to a page or two. The state's critical required ingredient is evidence of a promise. Focus on why you chose each other and what you will do and be for each other.

Choose readings that resonate with you. Be solemn with a passage from Corinthians. Or be light with a Dr. Seuss rhyme. One or two selections, delivered by friends and/or family before and/or after the vows, should suffice.

Choose symbolic acts judiciously. Customs from religious, cultural, or ethnic traditions can be a welcome part of a ceremony. Some couples light unity candles or exchange roses, while others engage in broom jumping or coin presentation rituals. Limit such acts to two at most.

Don't forget the conclusion. The officiant's pronouncement "By the power conferred upon me by the state of ___" is a legal requirement. Afterward, share a kiss and step into your new roles as a married couple.

As always, if you have any specific questions, please do not hesitate to contact me.

No portion of this website may be reproduced, republished or mirrored, without the expressed written consent of the owner.
Last modified: 12/02/2018